On average one every two days (this is the statistic ), we are on time, surely, the bad news.
Another woman was killed at home or on the street in full view of everyone, from her husband-partner-current or former boyfriend which has separated itself.
Many of these women were killed at the back months or years of violence suffered and strict controls, sometimes reported and sometimes not.
many are now in Italy the children orphaned by mothers killed by their fathers? Children who will never again have a kiss, a hug dalla loro mamma o solo sapere di poter contare su di lei in tutti i momenti belli e brutti della loro vita. Oltre a uccidere la loro mamma, questi uomini, hanno distrutto la vita dei loro figli.
Ci si domanda spesso cosa spinga le donne a legarsi a uomini violenti e cosa spinga molte di loro a restarci .
Uno dei motivi potrebbe essere il rapporto difficile con i genitori con i quali convivono e quindi, la ricerca di una loro serenità e libertà e l’illusione che si possano realizzare dall’unione con un uomo che sembra dare una garanzia di sicurezza e stabilità ( o forse s’intravvede solo una via di fuga da una realtà divenuta opprimente ).
Altre volte, invece, pur non essendone consapevoli, queste donne scelgono uomini violenti che ricalcano modelli comportamentali già presenti all’interno della propria famiglia d’origine. Una sorta di masochismo, insomma.
Altre ancora, incontrano sulla loro strada dei bravi comunicatori in grado di mostrarsi – a parole – diversi da quelli che sono e che riescono a plagiare le loro menti. Spesso questi uomini si presentano come vittime di infanzie infelici o di matrimoni sfortunati .
Le donne vittime di questi uomini, non danno importanza ai segnali contrastanti che essi mandano, semplicemente perché noi tutti, come esseri umani, siamo portati a giustificare e a fidarci più delle parole che dei facts.
So, if a man offends us, humiliate us and mistreat us but then he tells us (maybe crying ), who loves us so much, we are led to believe and to deceive, deceiving ourselves. The
psychological violence, day after day, it destroys our self-esteem, makes us insecure and afraid to take important steps that can change our life, like leaving our "master."
Many are the thoughts that fill our minds and motivate us to move forward: "It's just a bad time, then something will change! ..."
"How do I, where am I going ?..",
" He's my husband and this is my family, I have to defend at all costs !...",
"... And if I leave and then I repent?".
hardly succeed on their own to get up and respond to this overwhelming condition. We often need external help ( relatives, friends, shopping anti-violence), the question is, can count on someone when our man tries to "suck" with its usual speeches from repentant partner. The
physical violence is often associated with psychological violence, but it is even more devastating because it puts us in a state of neglect and dependency. " Often violence physics involved when a woman dares to respond to insults and impositions or just threatening to leave.
It 's very easy to make judgments have little courage to battered women.
It 's hard to get, I speak with knowledge of the facts.
women are brutalized at first mistaken for the way they live, then they deny themselves the problem, then they become addicted believing that their condition is normal.
How many times I happened to hear, from a young age, some women I knew, "her husband beat her, but do not miss anything? As if, for these men, to get food for his woman, mistreat them from legitimate how and when they like!
When there's respect and love with a capital, a woman lacking in everything.
Other women I know that instead, after being savagely beaten by their men, they receive " to forget what happened," gifts such as clothing, jewelry or other things they like.
The treason affair, in my opinion, is part often in the context of maltreatment.
The uncertainty of the future is a major cause of resistance to the abandonment of women brutalized. The crisis makes everyone insecure, let alone women who do not have adequate economic independence!
Plagiarism and economic dependence are a deadly mix for battered women.
For each of these victims, I am reminded of the phrase in a movie: "I hope that I manage ...."
I wish all of escape the spiral of violence in which they are imprisoned. For this to happen, you need to talk and ask for help, that need to go out into the open.
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